Is your give and receive ratio out of balance?
Do you feel guilty receiving?
Are you feeling an imbalance in your relationship?
Do you feel drained around certain friends/ business partners / colleagues/ suppliers?
Do you take too much and not give in return?
Do you give and never get anything in return?
Do you over service and undercharge?
What stories are you telling yourself that might affect your capacity to receive?
If you answered yes to any of these questions then it’s a good time to do some personal reflections. When our ratio is out of balance it can contribute to us feeling depressed, dissatisfied, guilty, angry, unworthy, unloved, lack of self-worth, resentful and taken advantage of, which all lead to unhappiness on some level.
Ask yourself is your behaviour for your highest good and the people you are connected with. You have to give first to receive. Maybe your masculine and feminine energies are out of balance. Are you too Yin or too Yang? Both of them are important to create a healthy harmony in your life and business. They are two sides of the coin.
On one side, we have the active, masculine, yang energy which is all – ‘go, go, go and do, do, do’. It is faster, more closed and about doing and taking. On the other side, we have the more passive, feminine, yin energy which is slower, more open and about more being than doing. The yin energy is the time to receive.
Running your own business it is so easy to get caught up in the pressure, the conditioned belief that we always need to hustle and that we aren’t doing enough. But being more in your yin energy doesn’t mean all work stops and comes to a halt, instead it is about more flowing than forcing. To call in more ‘Ease, Grace and Flow’ you need to realise that receiving is just as vital to a successful business as giving.
I want to encourage you to think about receiving and giving, the yin-yang balance in your life and business, enjoy it, play with it, notice it, be mindful, be aware.
And lastly, I ask you:
What one thing could you do today to bring more pleasure into your life?
Maybe it is as simple as clearing your desk or office. Buying yourself that plant or those flowers for your space. Perhaps asking for support, advice, an ear to listen to you or maybe you say no to working with someone who you know will drain your energy, take up too much time and resources and leave you feeling unfulfilled. Whatever it is, everyday try to be mindful of the balance, after all when we feel good, we are able to do more good.